My Introduction to “It is What it Is”

On the 13^th of August 2015 I turned 50. I celebrated my 50^th birthday exactly where I’d wished to do so, at Thornybush Game Lodge in my beloved Thornybush Private Game Reserve. In the weeks and months leading up to this milestone birthday of mine, I’d been frantically at work writing content for my upcoming book, The Queen Particle. During all the activity I’d written down a number of the major lessons I’d learned from age 5, which was the age from when I am able to have my first really clear memories.

Upon realising how significant these lessons were and how I’d learned them, I decided to write them in to story style Blog articles if you will, the very articles which follow on from this one. When I was half way through them, having completed what I call the Love Realm and the Family Realm, I asked my husband Chris to read them. When done, he was visibly moved and distressed.

To use his very words, he said;

“I knew you’d been through a great deal in your life as a little girl and single female breadwinner, and I know that you’ve mentioned most of this to me either in passing or casually over a meal or a glass of wine, but I had no idea just how much you have been through. When I read it all and took it in, when I allowed myself to really connect with and feel your experiences, it made me feel quite unwell. I’m astonished that even though were married for over five years and haven’t been apart for even a day in what must be over three years now, I still didn’t quite understand. This is a huge lesson for me, as if this is true for us, just think how many other couples there are out there who don’t really know all the in’s and out’s about their spouse. How tragic this is as one should know, because the more you know about them, as long as you don’t judge them, the more you’re able to understand why they do the things they do and behave as they do!”

Chris was right and what thrilled me is what he’d read, had got him thinking differently and asking new and interesting questions about me. What a huge win as he’s an introvert, analytical type and so if my stories had touched him then I believe they will touch you too. It is my fervent hope that everything about The It is What it Is series will get you thinking, asking the right questions, developing new understandings and that from all this you will harness the good, let go of the bad and move forward with a profound gratitude for the contribution which every person you’ve had in your life has had on your life.

Each article tells a piece of my story, what I learned, and provides you with a transformational exercise.

Over and over again, during the exercises, I will ask you if you know what you want. There’s a reason for this, because when you know what you want and reach the point where you will not settle for anything less, that’s when the magic really happens. When you decide what has to be done and do it, nothing will be left undone. How powerful is that to know?

Before you go any further though, I have to teach you what has been one of the greatest revelations of my entire life and when you grasp this, it will be of tremendous benefit to you too.

As per all great coaching lessons, you have to know what you want. The sting in the tail though lies around how you then approach getting what you want. Let me explain. In a moment of clarity, you, a female breadwinner say, realise that you want to be happy and financially free. So, when anyone asks you what you want, you immediately reply “I want to be happy and financially free.” At face value that seems marvellous and maybe there are even a few high-fives to celebrate this huge shift within you. Thing is, you will never receive what you want. Right now, can you maybe hear your mother or father’s voice telling you “I want, doesn’t get”? Having read this, know that it’s okay if you’ve just dropped something or if your mouth is open, aghast. It’s also perfectly fine for you to be thinking “What the hell, has this woman completely lost her mind?” Truth is no I haven’t and here’s why…

Whenever you say “I want” know this universal truth – the words you’ve just used will give back to you exactly what you asked for. Instead of your receiving happiness and financial freedom, the effect (result) which your words are causing, will be to only strengthen your wanting happiness and financial freedom. Understand? Using the word “want” is fatal because all you will get back is just more of your “wantingness”, until you will get to the point where in total frustration you throw your hands up toward the heavens, declaring in a moment of ignorant finality, that “This mind power, creative process, results creating stuff does not work, in fact its total rubbish!”

I’ve met so many women who believed that saying what they wanted would bring what they wanted and how wrong they were. Yes, to know what you want is crucial, however once you know what you want, then you have to see yourself as already being in possession of the good that you desire. By this I mean that your desire – “I want to be happy and financially free” – when spoken, becomes “I AM happy and financially free.” There you go – now you know how to unleash the powerful genie of the universe and have him working flat out for you from the get-go. All you have to do is use the words I AM and to say your affirmation over and over again with feeling. Do this and what you desire will come to you – there can be no other way as this is law – a universal law which is hard at work all day every day for those who know how to use it.

What’s even more magical about knowing this, is it shifts you from a state of doing to a state of being. In other words, saying “I am happy and financially free” means that everything about your being accepts it as such – your mind, body and spirit (soul) accept this as a truth and what this tri-union accepts as real, becomes real. Again, this is law – this is how it is and if you don’t believe this then sadly you’re going to spend the rest of your days in the state of doing and the more you do the more exhausted you will become, until eventually you will have to look for another way, a better way, this way.

What follows on from this Introduction are 25 stories. Each story has a lesson (what I learned) and an exercise to help you extract practical value from what you’ve just read about me. Each story will have a video lesson too.

21^st of September 2015 is the day I begin posting this series for all to read. I will post a new article every day for 25 days and the accompanying videos will start as from the 1^st of October 2015.

No matter what might surface within you as a result of reading my articles, know this:

• You are not alone
• You can get through this
• You can overcome this
• You can release this
• You can have the life you want
• You are a powerful, limitless, woman
• It’s up to you to decide to be who you are and what you will now experience

When it comes to decisions and my encouraging you to make decisions above, know this: There are no good or bad decisions. There are only decisions. Even avoiding making a decision is a decision. The only way for you to grow, to progress, to expand, to receive more, to bloom and to succeed, is to make decisions so start doing so now – plus, you’ll be amazed at how making decisions will raise your self-concept and do wonders for your confidence.

A very final word on pain. In my articles I openly express the pain I felt as it very real for me and at the time it hurt like hell. What I had to learn and thankfully I now have, is that nothing is painful in and of itself – pain is merely the result of wrong thought, of an error in thinking. Pain results from a judgement you have made about a thing. Remove the judgement and the pain disappears.

To your great success.

With much love.

Suzanne